
Ess T asked: I need some words of advice with coping witha recent change in my relationship.
For 2 years my GF and I have had no friends, gone out together and done most things together.
A few months back she met 2+ new friends at uni and has been spending time with them throughout the week whilst i work - so i barley noticed the change.
Now she is on study break and misses her friends and is making lots of plans to go out with them, spending a night away from me and staying at their place or coming home late with them and then in the morning hanging out with them till mid afternoon. Ive been pretty ok with this change, i do have things to do but i started feeling a little jealous that i have a little less time with her and am becoming a second option in her life, shes putting a lot of focus developing a friendship with them (i know i shouldnt feel jealous because its great that she is having fun and spending time with friends) but it just seems weird now things have changed, i get a little… how do i put it… left out when she makes plans with them and i am never invited… i guess i would like to be invited, but they dont have male partners so its kind of akward… third wheel style…
So now she tells me next week she is going away for 4 days to a party in a different state with them.. im ok with it but i do have a little worry that im going to start to be left out and become a second option in the future….
Also, i want her to do this and im not saying i dont want her to have friends and spend nights away as its important she has friends so she doesnt feel lonely… i guess i didnt know i would feel left out when it actaully happend..
How do i deal with this change, what can i do instead? What are your experineces?
Kayla